“What do you do all day?”

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“What do you do all day?”
It’s possibly the rudest thing anyone has ever said to me.

I am a stay at home mom of three kids, two of whom have special needs, and yes, someone said this to me. And what made me even more angry is that I couldn’t answer the question. I know what I do is important. I know I wake up at 6am and fall asleep around 10pm, and I’m always tired, but I have no idea what I do in the day.

So I started to angrily photograph my days. “See?” I thought, “I make lunches that people complain about, I pick stuff up, I clean out the fridge. I drive and drive and drive.” I do all these menial, exhausting tasks and it goes unappreciated. But as I looked through the pictures, I realized that perhaps not all the things I do are soulless drudgery. I walk to the beach a few times a week, have lunch with friends, find people who are hiding, explain why the moon is out in the daytime, and give people snuggles when they need them.

I am no closer to answering the question of what I do all day, but I think now I have a better sense of it all. It’s filled with the things I expected, the menial tasks, a significant lack of mental stimulation, and some amount of frustration and exhaustion. But that’s only part of the story. A bigger part than I thought is filled with love, and silliness and snuggles.

If you want to see what I do all day, look at my blog. It’s a partial accounting of what I do.